Tips and highlights before and during the divorce period
Today in 2020 in light of the various events taking place The Corona crisis ) More than once We wonder if we are suitable after being in quarantine for the past few months.
People decide after a long thought to divorce despite the not simple procedure. It must be said that the procedure is a psychological, cognitive, economic, and emotional process.
Important to note It must be said that not all couples divorce because of infidelity. Importantly, the issues for divorce are diverse, ranging from lack of consent, financial aspects, emotional and physical abuse, marriage at a young age, marriage due to pressure of later age, extended family, lack of appreciation, disdain, lack of taking responsibility, criticism of the other party, stinginess, alcohol addiction, gambling addiction, and the like, illness or disease of one of the parties, sexual dysfunction, fights in the presence of children, and of course sexual infidelity.Cheating of the couple and not necessarily in a sexual sense.
American research determined that after examining 2,700 couples in which one of them had a chronic illness, the chance of divorce was 80% higher than that of healthy couples. Apparently, like the famous saying, “We marry in wealth and poverty, and in health and sickness,” it is just a saying, and according to the author of the study, it is better to be healthy and rich than sick, since this serves as “marriage advice.”
Important thing to know A study conducted in Israel by psychologists states: Second marriages are 60% more likely to break up than the first. Therefore, our recommendation is a financial agreement before a second marriage. (See the article Financial Agreement)
Couples who seek divorce are not always coordinated and seek divorce together. Many times the husband seeks divorce and the wife refuses, and vice versa, and therefore the level of maturity and preparation of the couple is a problematic and very emotional issue.
Important tip: It is important to go and consult with Professional divorce attorney In order to help the couple make informed, non-emotional decisions.
Both women and men always make the mistake of consulting with friends or family before the divorce process.The advice they receive is not always good advice, and many times the advice of friends leads them to disasters in the divorce process, both emotionally and legally.
(See article Advice from Friends)
The important message is to manage the divorce crisis correctly. And the best example is a client who breaks a leg or does not go to a friend to have the leg healed but to an orthopedist.
Therefore, consultation and strategic management of the process can shorten the process and yield better results.
In this article, I will review the key points that, if followed, can help you get through the divorce crisis better.
In the United States, a large-scale study was conducted to examine the level of impact of the divorce crisis. For couples, the result was amazing on an emotional level. The mourning period for divorce takes between a year and a half and five years to overcome the crisis and loss of the marriage..
This statistic is amazing and explains why it takes couples between one and three years to finalize the case, both on a factual, legal and emotional level, when they enter the family court.
Key highlights to get through this period more easily .
First, when seeking professional help from a divorce lawyer, it is important to note that the first thing to check is the personal connection between the client and the lawyer. This is very important for the continuation of the procedure, as the divorce lawyer is the authority to manage the procedure.
Secondly, it is important to know and understand the legal procedures and the management of the procedure. At the end of the day, the client must have a minimal understanding of the procedure, factual and legal transparency.
Important tip : It is important to go A lawyer who specializes in divorce With proven abilities in the field of family and divorce in particular, and not a lawyer who performs another additional specialization. Furthermore, an attorney who is knowledgeable in all laws and rules. Proven experience of years.
Another emphasis, it is important to understand that the best way to end divorce disputes is a divorce agreement. It is quick, convenient, and reduces pressure on the couple, with low expenses, and allows for broad thinking about managing the crisis while the children are in minimal suffering. (See the article Divorce Agreement)
Furthermore, Managing a divorce agreement saves a lot of money for divorcing couples when they do not have to attend hearings, consult various experts, and manage a lengthy process that requires large payments to the parties’ lawyers.
When it comes to making a divorce agreement, it can be done by one mediator per couple, or alternatively, each party can hire their own lawyer. In any case, it is always worthwhile and desirable to think about the issue of the divorce agreement.
On the other hand, when the procedure does not progress to a divorce agreement or a party to the dispute is not ready for an agreement for various reasons, strategic thinking must be done on how to enter the legal process. In Israel, there are two parallel methods for the issue of property division, residence times, alimony, and balancing resources for both the family court and the court.
Unique authority exists only in the matter of divorce and is vested in the Rabbinical Court.
Before entering the hearings, a cost-benefit analysis must be performed for the client. And think together with him what you want to receive in the legal process. (See the article The Race for Power)
myth : Many clients think that it is always better for a man to go to the Rabbinical Court and for a woman to go to the Family Court. This issue is not wrong. Every case must receive a suit according to the client’s measurements. (See the article Questions and Answers in the Divorce Process)
It is important to understand a key tip: When we get divorced, we are essentially breaking up our package, which includes:
• Marriage – Ketubah
• Minors – alimony, residence periods
• Financial resources – apartments, offices, properties, bank accounts, careers, stocks, options, companies, small-medium businesses, business-personal reputation, financial promises for the future. Often companies in the process of being established, startups, and the like.
• Emotional – the feelings between the couple and the minors.
In fact, it is a matter of seeing our entire world destroyed, so the procedure must be carried out with maximum sensitivity and utmost determination.
Additional emphasis When conducting a divorce proceeding, it is useful and desirable to be prepared for it in order to make it easier for a divorce attorney in real time. This is simply collecting documents such as:
• Bank documents.
• Provident fund documents.
• Pension documents.
• Payslips.
• Assets of any kind, including sales or lease contracts.
• Insurance documents.
• Example external documents – Tax Authority letters
• Documents regarding receiving money or a loan to a third party
• Protests.
• Invoices
• And any document that can help.
Many customers use Private investigator Usually in order to detect a cheating spouse,
Our tip: hire a divorce lawyer who will focus on the private investigator. Then the use of the researcher becomes more practical and focused.
Additional emphasis, During a crisis, a bank account can be blocked, and seizures can also be made so that the other party does not spend money fraudulently and deceitfully. A divorce attorney must be involved in this in order to maximize the activity and to advise him/her accordingly.
Another tip – Under no circumstances should children be involved in the divorce dispute. This is detrimental to the conduct of the proceedings and causes irreversible damage to minors.
In any case, during the procedure, it is advisable and desirable to contact a child psychologist for assistance in everything related to children and in treating them during the crisis.
Our recommendation – Seek help from a professional who deals with parental guidance in order to receive a toolbox but to behave in front of the children during this period. This will help during the crisis and afterwards.
Additional emphasis Discretion is most important when preparing for divorce and during the process.
Last tip: Do not conduct the divorce battle on social media. The issue can lead to legal claims against you, such as defamation, protection of privacy, and the like.
