Why are people afraid of breaking up?
Romantic relationships are a complex matter, and over time, especially after you get married and have children, the difficulties pile up and the relationship often becomes a burden.
People find themselves trapped in failed marriages, in a condescending and belittling relationship, one that does neither party any good, and yet, for reasons that are not always clear to those around them – they stay. The very thought About divorce It paralyzes them and the fear of separation runs things.
In the detailed review below, we will try to explain the motives that keep us in bad relationships, and in particular the reasons why people are afraid to break up, even though life in a relationship is not good for anyone.
Habits and fear of change
Humans by nature cling to habits and turn them into a routine, one that protects them, primarily from the fear of change.
After years of being in a relationship with the same person, there is a fear of changing and breaking the familiar routine, even if it is a negative routine and even if all signs indicate that it is time to break up.
Sometimes people prefer to stay in a bad place, just so as not to look for another place and out of fear of dealing with the consequences of change, including: dealing with the divorce process, financial worries, concern for the well-being of the children, Custody Children And questions about dividing time with them, reluctance to the new status of divorced, loneliness, and more.
Staying for the children
It’s true that the welfare of children is important. But ask yourself with all your heart whether continuing to have a bad relationship in which both parents don’t get along and/or don’t love and/or fight all the time is indeed the best choice for your children.
A home where the parents don’t want to be together, regardless of the consequences and implications of the situation, is not necessarily a healthy place to raise children.
Sometimes, with all the pain involved, it is better for children to live with divorced and happy parents than with parents who live under the same roof in suffering.
The fear of being alone
Loneliness is a scary thing, and it can also confront us within a relationship with another person. However, when we are part of a family unit, and it doesn’t matter if that cover is only on the outside, the fear of that loneliness becomes relatively blurred and pale.
One of the reasons why people, especially those of advanced age, do not get divorced is because they are afraid of being alone and afraid of growing old alone.
They fear that they are no longer attractive, are afraid to return to the dating market and experience disappointments, and most of all – to feel the loneliness that everyone feels some of the time, all the time.
Overcome fear and make a decision!
To sum up, if you think your marriage is not in the right place and if you have tried to repair the relationship, talk about the problems, go to couples therapy and try to improve the current situation but to no avail, you should consider breaking up.
If you understood that probably The time has come to get divorced. And if you have identified one of the reasons mentioned above as a factor that prevents you from taking the step and separating, we recommend that you seek personal consultation with an experienced lawyer in the field of family law in general and representation in divorce proceedings in particular.
You can share with friends or relatives you trust, to get support and/or encouragement, but it’s important to remember It is not wise to take advice from friends and “know-it-alls” but only from a qualified professional..
At this point, we would like to emphasize that it is not advisable to be reckless, and in any case, it is recommended to consult with a lawyer before you rush to inform your partner of your desire to get married, and also before you start divorce proceedings.
